One In A Million

So my past entries have been all about things going on in my life, but now its time to move on to things that I can state my opinion on.

Sex is not everything. But in our society that's what it has come to. I've met dudes at 10 p.m. and by 10:10 they are already asking me to have sex in an indirect way. Its really sad that so many females feel this way, but quite frankly, we've gotten used to it, and we accept it to a certain level.

Its just not attractive for a guy to talk about sex within the first few minutes of meeting a female. NOT EVERY female is hoe out here! There are some of us who don't want to have a one-night-stand with you, or who even still claim to be on the Virgin Island! It especially bothers me when a good looking dude, or even a guy who has lot going for himself stoops to that level of asking for sex before you even know my last name.

Not to get too serious out here, but its reality, STI's and HIV are spreading and you would think people would be more careful. A condom can't prevent you from getting herpes! So why are you poking everything that walks by with a nice body! I know some of the most georgous females who have herpes, and ghonorea! If she's fine enough for you to try to hit, don't you think other dudes have hit before too?!? More than likely if she looks good and gives it up to you, she's done it before and it probably won't be her last time.

I feel like sex is used as a way to form a male's identity in some cases. They feel as though they need to go out here and "sow their wild oats" in order to be excepted by their peers. But someone has to stand up and be different. AND I KNOW there are some of you guys out there! I'm not one of these male-bashing females. I do believe there are some good guys who are not hoes and want love with sex.

You're just one in a million.

Sex is physical. But I think it can be controlled on a mental level when that individual wants to. Abstinence isn't easy, but it makes the moment that much better when you wait. If I could get that thought through to my peers I would be good to go!

Such is life...

New York

This past weekend me and my girls decided to take a random trip to New York City. We ended up leaving out early on Saturday morning -- which turned out to be a stuggle for me! We searched for about 20 minutes for a 24-hour paarking spot in DC. HA! We finally found one at Union Station. Proceeding out of Union Station we used Sasha, a portable navigation system, to find our way to I St. where our bus left from. Let's just say that we won't be using that bus line anytime soon! The smell from the bus made me nausous, so the 4 hours to NY were the longest in my life.

Upon arriving in New York (Chinatown) we headed to Penn station to go down to Jersey to meet up with one of my girl's aunties!

We got to Jersey around 3:30 p.m. and decided to head over to Rutgers to visit the campus. I was thinking about Rutgers for grad school, but after visiting discovered that I don't really want to head that way. The campus was really nice, but its not the "feel" that I want. At least I think. We'll see about other grad schools later on.

Besides going to Jersey we didn't do much else. But it was a good time anyway. Everytime I go to NY I fall in love all over again. Besides the weird people and delayed subway trains, I just love being in the environment. NY has a place for everyone, you just have to give it a chance.

Who knows what the future holds for me...until next time -- PEACE & LOVE:)

Richmond, RIchmond's Ringing My Bell!

SO! I have done so much thinking over the past few days. Its been a roller coaster so here it goes.

Thursday night, went to the Tyler Perry Play, "The Marriage Counselor." It was great, we laughed until it was no longer possible.

Friday I decided to take an adventure into Richmond since I don't go that often. Went to the Jamaica House and got a beef patty and coco bread! It was great. Then I left there and went to Belle's Isle, where I sat on a rock in the James River and thought about life after graduation. While sitting there I discovered that I want a simple life. I can't see myself working 18-hour days for some company that could care less about me as a person. So, I'm thinking about going into public affairs and possibly relocating back to Richmond in January. Its just a thought for now, but if this summer goes the way I plan it...I'll be back, with a full time job! More on that later though.

Saturday I went to see the grandparents, it was interesting. And it always is!

Sunday I went to church with my mother, sister, and nephew. It was good, although my day didn't really start until later, when I watch Rev. Wright on CNN. Man, you have got to hear this man's speech. Very powerful, even though I know it will be heavily criticized later.

Now I'm sitting here preparing for an interview tomorrow. My mother just finished straightening my hair, and I am not happy about it. More on that later -- this hair thing of mine...oh you will find out!

Not too much else going on, except that I'm ready for the summer. I hope all is well in your life, if not...A change is going to come...try to be productive despite the situation!

Thanks for reading --

Mind, Body, Soul, and Heart

I was sitting at work today and one of my co-workers came up to the desk and we discussed taking care of the mind, body and soul. He said "heart" out of no where and I thought to myself, hmmmmmm, makes sense. I don't really know why or how, but it does.

Lately, I've been on a health kick. And I don't mean a Slim Fast, watching calories health kick. I'm talking about an old-fashioned, cutting out the processed food gig. I can honestly say that I feel so much better! I don't eat fast-food, even though its tempting on this campus, and I have cut out every other type of liquids except water and 100% juice. I get weak just like any other person, but when I do I think of the feeling I have been having lately. I just say, "is it worth it to eat that now, and feel nauseous later? Nah its not!" I'll just go back to my room and eat an orange or something!

I have also been in the gym quite frequently. And when I can't make it there, I run. I never thought I would be running out of choice, but I can see why people say they love that "runner's high" that they feel. The Ipod also helps me to get in the zone.

Now to the soul. Man this is one in which I am still discovering. During my childhood I was taught that you go to church every Sunday, regardless of what you did the night before. Now I'm realizing that simply being there is not enough. You have to live this stuff, night and day. You have to study, like you would for an exam that you forgot about in 2 hours, lol. I'm finding that many of my peers simply say they are religious, but couldn't tell you hardly anything from the Bible. I haven't quite come to a conclusion on this one, but I'm trying, and I know I'll see the light one day. Until then, I'll keep reading, and learning.

As far as the heart. Well, that's still up in the air. For now I'll just keep eating my whole-grains! lol

Until He^ let's the sunset on another day, I'll holler!

In the beginning...

As I sit and think of the ways in which I can create my space for the writing I plan to do, I can't help but reflect on who I am as an individual. A lot has changed over the course of this year. I would like to say that I have "discovered" myself, but in reality I know there is so much more to learn.

I find myself in deep thought sometimes only to still have questions in the end. So, I say to you my brothers and sisters, I am not here to influence anyone's opinion on anything that I choose to post. This is a space for me to share my thoughts with the world. I never in a million years would have thought I would have a blog. But, here I am -- and life -- simply put, takes you on paths, trails, and roads that you never would have expected.

I'm just down for the ride -- the location to be determined.

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